In order to protest Chick-Fil-A’s recently widely publicized stance on gay rights (for those unaware, they have come out as ‘supporting’ a ‘biblical view’ of marriage and have shown themselves to be discriminatory and opposed to LGBT*Q-etc equality), a group of Facebook citizens have begun organizing a National Same Sex Kiss Day in Chick-Fil-As across the country. It is intended to be a prideful, peaceful event to show that their bigoted hatred will have no affect on the love of others around them.
I am in support of this idea and it got me thinking. One of the most sexuality, orientation, identity-accepting communities I have ever met is the Homestuck fandom. All of the wonderful local Homestucks I know are great people who support equality and love each other devotedly. I’m certain this is the case across the country as well. So, fellow Homestucks, why don’t we call a meet?? I suggest a nation-wide Homestuck Kiss-In at Chick-Fil-As near you! Join the movement, come in cosplay or without, bring a willing partner, and make sweet lip-love to your heart’s content with a fan, cosplayer, or character of the same sex or gender as yours/yourself.
Be respectful, have fun, and show some love!
*Note: Be sensible about how you dress. Remember, the point we’re trying to get across is Same Sex/Gender Love, not “Gray Creatures Attack Local Chick Fil A.”
I really wish I knew other people in my town who were LGBT friendly that I could drag along but I’m probably just going to drive by and see if there is anyone and then go hide at the Denny’s next door >.>.
Don’t. In all seriousness though, we should generally refrain from talking about the bodies of other people as they are outside of the scope of our experience and understanding. There does come a time though that we discuss having had similar experiences concerning similar body parts. While someone’s body may look like another person’s, it does not mean that the individuals use the same language to define their bodies. So, what do you do as a well-intentioned person?
Before we begin, I want to take the time to say that if you’re exploiting a trans* person’s existence to interrogate them about their genitalia, you’re not a well-intentioned person. The language this post discusses will not absolve you of your cissexism.
- It’s always a good idea to ask if someone is okay with you doing anything with their body. This includes talking about it, writing about it, etc. We all have our curious moments, and maybe you couldn’t find information on something specific when you looked it up on your own before asking the nearest trans* person, but you should still ask if it’s okay. While many of us are open people, we don’t exist to educate cisgender people about our bodies and experiences. We have feelings, and we may not feel like educating at the moment. It can be pretty exhausting after awhile.
- So, they said yes. Now, what words do you use to avoid being offensive? Ask. We ask what things/people are called all the time. This isn’t an exception: “Do you have preferred words for specific body parts?” Not everyone is going to know what you mean, including trans* people. At that point in time, I am a bit more forward: “Are you okay with textbook words like penis/vagina? Or would you prefer something else?” It goes beyond penis/vagina though. We constantly gender bodies. In general, refrain from saying things like “you were born a girl or a boy” or “male-bodied/female-bodied.” Not only do sentences like this not make sense since gender is something we create, it’s also inaccurate. They are terms describing identities, not objective existence. If you want to ask someone what their birth certificate originally said (which really there is no reason to ever, but I’m just using this as a hypothetical situation), discuss the situation with accuracy. This is more than not hurting someone’s feelings. It’s about not spreading misinformation as well. We are all assigned sexes/genders at birth. No one is born a gender or sex. These are things we’ve invented via our cultures.
- Be aware and respectful of the person’s boundaries. If someone asks you to stop, stop. End of story, there is no reason you should continue. It doesn’t have to be a “rational” decision. It doesn’t have to make sense to you. Really, it may have nothing to do with you, so you don’t even really have to apologize either. Simply thank the person for opening up to you and maybe offer yourself as help or support out of consideration. If you offended them by mistake, apologize, ask if they’d be willing to explain in the moment while offering to look it up on your own if they don’t want to, never do it again. Don’t tell someone they took it the wrong way or that they should feel differently. You can’t tell someone how to feel or how they do feel. That doesn’t make any sense, and it’s simply not your place.
Again, this isn’t about walking on eggshells. This is about accuracy and not being a jerk. Every time someone crosses these lines with me, they’ve told me they’re well-intentioned and, therefore, it makes everything okay. You have good intentions? Prove it by learning how to better treat other people.
“How many transgenders have to die before you get involved?”
[Image: A depressed-looking kitten. Text, to the right: “I am not sure which will hit my family hardest—me coming out as gay, or me coming out as an atheist. I’m morbidly tempted to try both at the same time, just to see which one they flip out at the most.”]
I worry that if I’m not Christian, my parents will blame me being queer on the lack of God in my heart.
GSM stands for Gender & Sexuality Minority
I prefer it to LGBT because GSM is more inclusive
Basically any gender or sexuality that isn’t considered heteronormative could go under GSM.As well as LGBT…
[1: matelotage asked: “Though there are lot’s of gay people on tumblr I can never find any in real life and so I thought maybe someone could invent some sort of Gay Signal, like someone blows a conch shell and shouts ‘GAYS ASSEMBLE’ and we all come running. Just an idea.” 2: crappy paint image of a starry sky and a light signal a la the Bat Signal that says “GAY!”]
this sounds oddly fun.
[image: a door opened revealing the sky. text: I get so pissed when the LGBT community says, “You should just come out, it will be so much better once you don’t have to lie about who you are.” I need money to get into college. I need a house until I can afford one. My parents won’t accept me if I come out, and I’d probably end up penniless and homeless. I wish people would understand it’s not always that easy.]
Stitched This Way on Etsy
(submitted by justlikegmpavalentine)
[The image is of a stitched craft of a train. The engineer is a clown. A bear with balloons and a lavender unicorn ride in one train car. The caboose is pink with a fuchsia heart. There’s a rainbow at the top that encompasses the train. Underneath the rainbow, it reads, “I’m on the right track baby,” meant to be a part of Lady Gaga’s lyrics.]
If I decide to have kids, this will be above their bed :3… or in the kitchen.
Ram Dass (via philosophicalconfetti)
Very simple, very comprehensive list of gender, sexual, romantic, and relationship identities/labels. You should all go read this right now.
…oh my god, this is gorgeous. Everyone go read this, now. I’m putting it on my sidebar (and I’ve never had any links on my sidebar). Seriously, you will not regret clicking this link.